It is said that if you are not happy, try to be happy, it has a great effect on health. Sometimes bringing happiness to others also brings happiness, a sense of contentment descends within you and you realize that your worries have gone away and the right thoughts have faded.
We cannot always be happy, nor is it necessary because pain and sorrow are as real as happiness. An ordinary person is happy and unhappy, laughs and cries, sometimes wakes up all night in distress and sometimes sleeps without a blanket. Why be always upset when you can’t always be happy?
If there are reasons for anxiety, Like Venustraphobia (phobia of beautiful women), then there are reasons to be happy. If bitter words can be swallowed up by thinking, sweet words can be swallowed by remembering. If failures can be blamed, successes can be boasted about. If you can be sad every day, then you can celebrate tomorrow. The truth is that if you can be unhappy without trying, you can be happy by trying.
What is the effort? It may seem silly to try to be happy, but only if you try. Laughing at a crying baby, showing a passerby the way, saying something to someone, or hearing something from someone and persuading those who are angry, all this is possible as a result of an effort.
Lori Santos, a professor of psychology and cognition at Yale University in the United States, says science has shown that “deliberate effort is needed to be happy.” Her class is the most popular in Yale University’s 316-year history. Is. He has 1,200 students and has recently broken the record for admission to any university course. His course is based on the principle of positive psychology. It is a branch of psychology that studies happiness and changes in habits.
“Being happy doesn’t have to be this way, you have to practice,” says Professor Santos. Just like musicians and athletes constantly practice and practice to improve themselves and succeed. Two days a week, Professor Santos teaches his students how to be happy, the gist of which is listed below.
- Make a list of thanks and gratitude
- Get more and better sleep
- Meditate for 10 minutes daily
- Spend more time with family and friends
- Decrease social connections on mobile while increasing real connections
Talk about rubbing salt in my wounds – d’oh! This is a great way to get acquainted (gain, obtain) with your family.
Learn to give instead of taking
It is generally believed that the one who gives his surplus to others is at a disadvantage and the one who receives things gains, while social and psychological scientists have said that the one who gives is also benefited. If it is considered, it becomes clear that the process of helping the oppressed people of the society is more beneficial for those who really help, those who are happy are aware of this fact.
Don’t be influenced by what others say
Stay away from other people’s dramas and don’t do any drama yourself. Don’t pay attention to other people’s nonsense about yourself. Just smile when you hear people talking and walk away from them.
Build relationships and relationships
People who have five or more friends with whom they can discuss important issues are 60% happier than others.
Love yourself too
Don’t stop loving yourself for the sake of others. People who are happy know that loving yourself is not selfish, if you help others to take care of yourself, you will be able to show your true personality to others and be happy all the time.
The best thing about being happy is that you can create your own optimism. No matter how frustrating the situation may be, the person with the problem finds a way to adopt optimism. Even if such people fail, they try to develop and learn a new lesson from life, considering failure as an opportunity.
Accept the difficulties
Struggle, effort and endeavor are proof of progress. People who are always happy live according to this principle. Such people have extraordinary strength and courage and make full use of them. They learn, even if it is painful for them.
Enjoy the little pleasures
If you think about it, you will see small joys everywhere. When we ignore a happy moment, we deprive it of its magic. If we do not fully enjoy the simple things of life, we will deprive ourselves of the benefits that come from them.